Women Who Don’t Want Bald Boyfriends

Madonna. Demi Moore. Sandra Bullock. These glamourous older woman have apparently inspired a rise in the number of women seeking a toy boy. These women have been dubbed ‘cougars’ for the way they stalk the urban jungle on the prowl for younger men with softer skin, fitter bodies and no signs of hair loss.

However, Demi Moore, 47, said that she doesn’t understand why she’s been labeled a ‘cougar’. “I’m certainly not the first person to be in a relationship with a younger man, but somehow I was plucked out as a bit of a poster girl,” the actress told W magazine. Moore’s new husband, Ashton Kutcher, is 15 years younger than her and, unlike her ex Bruce Willis, shows no signs of baldness (yet). Despite the difference in looks, Moore insists she is in love with Kutcher and that age has nothing to do with their relationship.

There does however seem to have been a shift in women’s tastes in men over the last few years. According to a well-known online dating company, back in 2005 just 8% of single women in their 40s and 50s said they would date a man five or more years younger than themselves. Today, over a third said they would consider a younger man.

To ‘cougars’, younger men are the more attractive option: they usually have a much more open-minded attitude and zest for life, while seldom coming with the baggage of their middle-aged counterparts. At the same time, Toyboy.com male members are expressly looking to date older women precisely because they see them as more self-assured, free-spirited and appealing than women their own age.”

It seems the toyboy seeker has been given a make-over. Instead of the frustrated Mrs Robinson-type, we now see strong A-list celebrity women confidently discussing and showing off in public their relationships with younger men. This toyboy theme has been explored by Courtney Cox in the hit US TV show, Cougar Town, and by Catherine Zeta-Jones in the new movie, The Rebound, which tells the story of her 40-year-old character falling for a 25-year-old babysitter.

While many think that hair loss only affects middle-aged men, infact many men will start to suffer from Male Pattern Baldness in their 20s or 30s. By the age of 35, 40% of men will already be showing the early signs – a receding hairline and hair loss from the crown area.


  1. Paul Horrocks says:

    As a twenty something and already seeing the effects of hereditary baldness i’d like to ask any women to give me an honest opinion on what difference this makes to choosing a partner. Would you be less likely to go out with a guy with a not quite full head of hair or could you see past that. Self help guides on baldness, and these programmes on tv tell “us” guys that it’s not important – but what do you really think?

  2. Kay Ballard says:

    My toy boy is bald and gorgeous.

    Paul, if you are losing your hair, fighting it might make you look silly. Men who are confidently bald look terrific!

  3. Paul Horrocks says:

    Thanks Kay! You just never know what to believe. I appreciate your comments :)

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